Emunah in being single

Being single on Valentine’s Day has always been hard. You hear it all around. The jealousy is rife when those around us receive gifts and glow from their special someone. There’s extreme joy in the air and extreme bitterness. For many Valentine’s Day is a reminder of what they don’t have or haven’t “achieved”. It’s…

Kiss of Fire: shomer nagia in dating

So the title comes from one of my favourite Louis Armstrong songs: a provocative tango. How appropriate. I can just picture a smokey dim lit room with women and men dancing intimately together in their enticing clothes, trumpet sounds and deep vocals vibrating through them. Been there, done that. One benefit of being baalei teshuva…

The agunah fight: learning from Rav Ovadia Yosef

I haven’t written about this topic so openly before. Maybe it’s too personal. Maybe it’s too sensitive. Last week, the FBI arrested two Rabbis in USA for beating reculcitrant husbands, and Rabbi Ovadia Yosef, who faught to free agunot, passed away. Nothing in this world is coincidence so I feel it necessary to write, to…

What to look out for when dating for marriage

This is a summary of a class I heard from a very special Rebbetzin about what six things to look out for when you date. 1. MUST LIKE AND ADMIRE THEM AS THEY ARE: So when it comes to the other person’s spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can…

Rabbi Kelemen on Marriage and Defining Love

This is a great mp3 about defining love for oneself, with others, and with Hashem. It’s free for download or to listen online. Highly recommended. Marriage – Defining Love – Rabbi Kelemen Some interesting points from the shiur: “Torah is a system for becoming a person capable of intimacy”, with yourself, others and Hashem. To…

Finding Mr Right or Mr Nice

Most girls want a nice guy. Someone who treats them well, caring, loving, affectionate, understanding. Unfortunately we often confuse Mr Nice with Mr Right, or is it the other way around. I know very little about relationships, and the only things I do know are the advice I’ve heard from some much trusted people who…

The Jewish Wedding: Simcha and Sadness

The Jewish Wedding is a beautiful and spiritual event that marks the birth of a new family and the start of new beginnings. Like many Jewish events our extreme joy is made humble with the remembrance of the difficulties that have struck our people, and specifically at the wedding, we remember the destruction of the…

The power of words

Another brilliant mp3 by Rebbetzin Jungreis that I just had to post! All about keeping your mouth closed and the effect of words! Enjoy!

Looking at Niddah from a whole different perspective

YOU think it’s hard to communicate when you’re in niddah? Think again. This amazing article discusses how a deaf person was able to positively harness the niddah time to enhance his relationship with his wife, despite their acute dependence on touch in normal circumstances. This is truly inspirational and a lesson to all of us…

The baal teshuva’s challenge in dating for marriage

So you think you’re ready for a shidduch, someone to build your life with? As a baal teshuva it’s not easy. There are so many questions both about the dating scene and what happens after…that thing called marriage. Many of us come from uncertainty and try to build some kind of understanding of truth and…