In our overly hectic lives we create more obstacles for ourselves than we realise. We forget to ask ourselves the most simplest of questions – what is it all for anyway?
Why are we fighting our kids to eat up all their dinner or fighting for where our hard-earned money should go? Surely you know what is best and surely you have a right to direct your life in the way you want. We all make plans and try to set up our futures, not just for ourselves but (with good intention) for those we care about. All noble causes. We do only what we truly believe is right and good for us and those around us. And each little ‘fight’ seems to us so very important. And it is, on a very small-scale. Once again we need to ask: why are we doing all these things?
At the end of the day, whether you want a chocolate and I think you need an apple, we all want the same thing. And that’s happiness. You want your husband to be happy and your kids to be happy, and your parents to be happy and your friends to be happy.
Despite this unity of vision, this overarching goal that every decent human aspires to, we are so unwavering in focusing on ourselves and our own ‘little’ problems. We can’t get out of our holes to take flight and see the birds-eye perspective. We’re stuck in our daily struggles forgetting what it’s all about. That’s the beauty of having loved ones around you who can reach down and pull you out. That’s also the beauty of having a Rabbi. S0metimes you need to ask for help and sometimes they just know to offer it to you. Either way, it’s important to stop trampling on yourself and those you love with your narrow perspectives and stop to reassess and take flight. Stop to ask yourself just one little question: What is it all for?
You’ll find yourself not wanting to argue or get upset about the little things. You’ll find yourself on the same side as those you love, not a competitor. You’ll see the relevance and irrelevance much more clearly. When you look at the whole, and see that it’s greater than the parts, the parts are less defining of who you are, freeing you to move on.